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Should my boyfriend help pay rent?

He moved here from Missouri to live with me and doesnt feel he needs to pitch in a certain amount of money for utilities every check because my ex pays the mortgage on the house that we live in as child support for our son. What do you think, should he? Would it be wrong for me to say pay or you go? I feel like he is taking advantage of me. Not too mention how bossy he is. Yes well, i feel its just the point that if he lived anywhere else he would have to pay something every month, the fact that he expects to live with me and not "have" to give something every check is wrong. well my son isnt paying the father is, but it was an arrangement him and I had since he decided to leave me with a child and move out of state. So when I decided to move on and have a boyfriend I was under the scrutiny of having to live in this arrangement as well. I want to thank all of you for your input. I guess I know what has to be done. How can I care about someone who does things like that. Anyway, Thanks.

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yes
of course he should.
ask him to leave.......
Yes!! Grown man just living in a house with no responsibilities, what a bastard. Tell him to be a man, act like he got some balls between his legs, get some responsibility...sorry, bastards piss me off.
Its not wrong of you. Stand up for yourself now or he will continue to use and walk all over you until youve got nothin left then hell move on to the next girl for a free ride
So he wants to live there scott free??? Sounds like a great deal on his end. Kick the moocher to the curb.
I would say yes, he ought to help you out on the bills. After all he uses the utilities too and not to mention he eats there too. We all know how expensive food is now a days. If he don't want to help maybe you need to have a discussion with him.
he needs to be pitching in somehow, be it groceries or utilities.
ask him 2 pay it
yes he should pay and you shouldn't have to ask him. He kind of sounds like a jerk...just sayn
yes your boyfriend should help you pay rent. you should pay half and half since he lives with you. i think its very messed up how he thinks he dosent have to pay rent. i think hes taking advantage of you, good thing you can do is make him pay rent half and half or kick him out. hope this helped :)
If he is living there, he should be contributing. I would tell him that it is only fair that since he is living there too, that he should pitch in and help pay part of the rent. My brother and I still live with my mother (we can't afford anything else) and we both pay her to live there with her. It's only fair.
Too be honest I think your boyfriend is being very selfish. Your ex sounds like a nice man to paying for not just your son but you as well to leave in your house, don't get me wrong he should pay his way. But if I was your ex boyfriend I wouldn't stand for another man to leave in my house for free. If he doesn't make enough money to add to the rent money then he should help with some DIY or pay for your food bills, or other things that would be useful. I'm sure even the offer to your ex would be nice. You need to put your foot down and say this is not a youth hostel for you to come and go when you please, you can give him the Option of paying or going as long and it doesn't spell the end of your relationship, but something needs to be said, if you feel you can't say anything then ask if your ex can have a word if your still good friends I'm sure he won't mind.
well yes if you are contributing he should too unless he watches your kids all day or contributes in some other way. dont get taken advantage of but it sounds like your leaving info out. child support is for children not for mortgage. if the mortgage is taken care of it sounds like your nitpicking and trying to rock the boat.
He should be paying 50% of all noncaptal expenses incurred at your household. He should not pay for improvements to your abode that add value - this can add legal issues that you don't want to face. . He should also be doing 50% of the housework, grocery shopping, cooking and other duties associated with an equal relationship. Keep all checking and savings accounts separate. By all means dump him if he refuses these or is controlling. From the little you write it sounds like a time to dump.
So, your son is paying the mortgage as his child support. How does this entitle your boyfriend to live rent free? You need to look at it as if you were getting cash from your ex. I would get a legal document, a lease agreement, and make him sign it after you have filled out the details (i.e. 1/3 of the housing costs, 1/3 of the utilities, 1/3 of the food, etc.) If he won't sign, that is his choice to look elsewhere to live. Quit being a doormat - that is something you do NOT want to teach your son!